a related topic... i was thinking about why it can be hard for a person to effectively show they are sincerely sorry (if they are indeed sorry...) as an offering to the 'wronged' person. it can also take a while for the other person to also recognize the sincerity, to heal (ie. they may or may not have been suffering for some time), or to be ready to forgive (if they haven't already...). every situation is different, but the basic message is the same. what do you think are some of the main roadblocks for the person who hasn't apologized to come forward, and what are some of the most effective ways to honor the other person and apologize?